This past week I have found myself in the unenviable role of peacemaker between two people who were both trying to offer their best in service to the Lord. One has authority and position, the other does not. Sometimes the interaction was like metal on metal and produced some grinding gears. Sometimes they had differences in philosophy about how to reach the shared goal of producing something that would be a blessing to many. Sometimes passions flared and prickly words bounced around the room.
A few observers formed opinions and made recommendations.
Misunderstanding on both sides, me in the middle, trying to translate.
Each had valid points. I watched the wisdom possessed by these two, the designated leader and the one who can't help leading, changing hands like a game of hot potato. I saw the titled one trying hard to be gracious despite rough patches. I saw the untitled one digging deep for calm in the face of technical difficulties and the blow of being misunderstood. Neither of them succeeded completely, but their efforts were valiant. I know they both prayed their way through it.
There is so much at stake. There is so much about this that matters.
I certainly am no authority, but I'd like to humbly submit my 12 observations for leaders to consider:
- Always try to set people up for success, not failure. 1 Corinthians 10:31-33
- When others fail to meet your standards and expectations, give grace, grace, and more grace--You never know how far they've already come or how hard their day has already been. Matthew 18:21-22
- God's instruction (His Word) is given to each of us to apply to the face in the mirror--be very careful about trying to apply it to your brother or sister. Matthew 7:3
- God is much more concerned with how closely we cling to Him than about whether we do everything right. Psalm 63:7-8
- Don't wrap a big wrought-iron "SHOULD" around the light and easy yoke of Jesus. Matthew 11:29
- Only God is fit to judge the content of a person's heart. Romans 14:10
- Anyone can put on a plastic face of conformity to people-please inside the church doors--it takes guts and real love to let people be themselves without criticizing and constant correcting. 1 Peter 4:8
- Accountability should never be a one-way street. Ephesians 5:21
- Encouragement works wonders that disapproval never will. Proverbs 15:1
- Lip service is never enough--act toward people in a way that backs up your words, especially with young people. 1 John 3:18
- Be the biggest cheerleader your people have. Hebrews 10:24
- Always, always, always have their back! 1 Corinthians 13:7
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